What your anger is really trying to tell you!
This morning, as I was going about my day, I saw a man on the street corner so consumed by anger that he was screaming at his phone. His frustration was palpable, and I couldn’t help but feel drawn to the rawness of that moment. It was as though his outburst was a reflection of emotions many of us carry silently. In that moment, I wrote myself a note: “Share what comes through from this.” And here I am, sharing what came to me after witnessing this.
Anger, like many emotions, often stems from a place much deeper than the situation at hand. It’s rarely about the phone call, the traffic jam, or the spilled coffee. Instead, it’s about the unprocessed pain, the betrayals we’ve endured, the grief we’ve suppressed, or the childhood wounds we’ve carried forward. It’s about the losses we feel we didn’t deserve, the moments that left us feeling unseen, unheard, and unloved.
When these emotions remain unaddressed, they don’t just disappear. They sit within us, buried, building tension like a tightly coiled spring. Over time, this emotional tension doesn’t just affect our minds - it affects our bodies too. The weight of unprocessed emotions often manifests as anger, stress, and even illness. This isn’t just a metaphor; it’s science. Our bodies literally store our emotions on a cellular level.
When I first learned about this, it changed everything for me. Did you know that under a microscope, our DNA cells actually constrict and become rigid when we’re in a heightened state of stress or anger? It’s as though our very essence tightens up, bracing for impact. This constriction creates tension throughout the body, and over time, that tension can lead to what we call dis-ease. It’s no coincidence that when we break the word “disease” into two parts, it quite literally means the body is not at ease.
But here’s the good news: just as tension can constrict our cells, healing can relax them. When we take the time to process our emotions, to sit with the pain instead of running from it, and to heal the old wounds we’ve carried for so long, we bring ease back into our nervous system and our lives. This doesn’t just feel good - it’s transformative. Our cells literally respond to this state of ease, relaxing and opening up, creating a ripple effect of healing throughout the body.
Witnessing that man’s anger this morning was a reminder of how important it is to address what we’re carrying. It inspired me to reflect on my own journey. There was a time when I carried so much anger and unresolved pain that it felt like it would consume me. But when I began to understand how those emotions were impacting not just my mind but my body and soul, everything changed. I started to process the grief, the betrayal, the losses. And with each layer I released, I felt lighter, freer, more in tune with myself.
This journey isn’t easy, but it’s worth it. When we allow ourselves to heal, we not only transform our own lives but also the lives of those around us. We break the cycles of suppressed pain and create a legacy of emotional freedom and resilience. So, if you’re feeling tension in your body or anger bubbling under the surface, I encourage you to pause and ask yourself:
What am I holding onto? What needs my attention and compassion? Remember, the path to healing starts with awareness and the courage to face what’s within. And as you do, know that you’re not alone on this journey.
With love and light,
Renee xxx